Advice for disclosures relating to Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs):

More than most disclosures, timing is everything with announcing STIs. It is obvious that exposing someone to something don’t know they might contract is a good way to end a relationship. What is also true is that waiting until sexual tension has been raised and you are moving into a more physically intimate place is also a recipe for upset and frustration. A good rule of thumb for STI disclosures is that they should be done when you and your partner are not being physically intimate- in other words, not right before the pants come off.

It is good practice to know the details of transmission, the appropriate safe sex practices and your own cycles of infectiousness. Your prospective partner will want to feel like you are well educated about your condition and careful that they will not expose you to their STI.

The shortest complete conversation about STIs is:

1) Do you have any infections which you are aware of?
2) When was the last time you were tested?

Follow ups depending on these answers can include:

3) Have you been involved with any new partners since you were last tested

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